Patrick- my special boy.

First I would like to start off by saying that both of my children are special in their own sort of way. But, this blog is about Patrick, my special little guy.

Patrick was diagnosed with autism in 2004, but I knew in my heart that he had it even before the doctor said those words no parent ever wants to hear.

"Your child has autism."

When I first discovered that Patrick was probably somewhere on the autism spectrum, I stayed up many nights crying myself to sleep. I wasn't sure what the future held. I really didn't know if my child would ever read, write, talk, get married, use the potty unassisted, have friends, go on dates, get a job, drive a car, tell me he loves me, etc. But, a revelation came to me one night and I realized that no parent ever knows if their child will do any of those things. Life is fragile, and often times short. I now just cherish every minute I get to spend with Patrick, instead of mourning the loss of the child that could have been. I try not to think of the things he may not do, and soak up the things that he can do.

Anyway, the reason for this blog is to share a letter written to Pat and I by one of Patrick's teacher at the end of this school year. Here it is:

Mr and Mrs Hagan,

I just wanted to write you a short note to tell you how much I have enjoyed
working with Patrick this year. I think he is such a special little guy, and I
will miss him dearly!! Watching his progress this year was nothing short of
wonderful. He is such an amazing spirit and has touched my heart is so many
ways. I will NEVER forget him; I just adore Patrick.

I wanted to say, after being with him this year, I believe in him. He is
going to have success in his life. I am proud for what he has achieved because
he showed me just how much he has inside of him. Do not let anyone ever tell you
he can't do something. He can do ANYTHING. I know this is my heart! He had quite
an impact on me, I believe he is a true gift. If you ever need someone to watch
him, please know that I am there for him. I will always value this school year
with such a wonderful boy, who has an amazing spirit.

All the best,

The amazing thing is that this isn't the first letter that we have gotten like this from someone who has spent time with Patrick. We have gotten letters from other teachers, bus drivers, and a day care worker. I always knew Patrick had an amazing spirit, but it's great to hear it from others.

I truly believe that Patrick has great purpose on this earth, and although I do not know what that purpose is I have no doubt that he will fulfill it. He may never read, write, talk, use the potty, go on dates, drive a car, or get a job, but I do know that he has already touched so many lives in the short time he has been on this earth; And, I am sure that he will touch many more.

Getting a job is overrated anyway.