An UPDATE!

So, to all my friends, family, loved ones, and those who have happened to stumble upon this post. As we bring in the New Year, I want to take a moment and update everyone of my life happenings.

If you do not know already, (and if you don't and you consider yourself a close friend, you REALLY should call me more often) Pat and I are separated.

We've been separated since late June.

Without going into too much detail; he cheated. It wasn't the first time, but it is the last. I am, of course, very hurt by the infidelity but I believe that it is a symptom of something much larger. We, as a couple, had a lot to deal with. We struggled through dealing with special needs children, deployments, death of close family members and infertility. Unfortunately, adding something extra to an already full plate of "problems" isn't something we believed we could handle. So we decided to go our separate ways.

We are working together to be sure the divorce is as easy on the kids as possible. We are currently still living together (in separate rooms), but I will be moving out next month. He and I are doing a "split custody" situation where he has the children as often (when work allows) as I do.

It's the best we can do considering the situation.